Kindness

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OK As You Are

Inner Value Kindness Pssibilities

Feeling as if we are somehow “not good enough” is the source of so much suffering.  Comparing ourselves to others or to some pre-conceived idea of who or how we should be creates in us a particular type of anguish.  We turn against our very own self.

What is it in our training or enculturation that should set us up in this way?  Regardless of where it comes from in our makeup, it is worth looking at as an internalized source of suffering. If there is any push inside ourselves to have to prove ourselves – even a little bit – we are dealing with the shadow of belief that we are not good enough. 

What is the remedy?  No matter where the notion came from, the clue for what helps is the recognition that now the voice is inside of us.  Inside. It is possible now, with no external contradiction to turn toward yourself with gentle kindness.  Really. Are you really not OK as you are?  Look at yourself carefully.  This precious Being trying so hard.

Love this person.  See how that is.

Open up to the possibility that you – as you are – are meant to be exactly this.  In fact, you are needed to be as you are.  Life has such a fascinating myriad number of forms, each necessary for the whole.  You are no exception.

Embrace each full moment, with its unique facet of amazing Life smiling at you.  This is it.  This – right in front of you right now – this is it.  Life – dancing a dance of eternal self-recognition.

Dive Deeper

Kindness Love Mind-Body Healing

I have spent some good amount of time and energy squaring off on the inner demons spawned and nurtured in the difficult early years of my life. Years spent chasing the right man, the right job, the right circumstance brought me up short so often, I just sat down. Stopped. Learned to look within at the terrain with a penetration that comes only to the desperate.

What I have come to realize, at the bottom of all this is that Love is general, neutral and always available, independent of any given person. It is more of an atmosphere. The depth and fullness of this is truly huge. Infinite so far as I know. And any of us can tap into this – and offer it to ourselves. It is a daily process and choice – and oh-so-sweet to settle in with the kindness of this ever-present, alive place within us. It means noticing and not buying into the habitual thoughts that drive us around in circles of anguish.

And we can welcome guests into that space with us. Share. But it comes from within us first. If another has clearly awakened to this realization and we have the incredible good fortune to be in their Presence, we should recognize this as a rare, extremely precious gift.

What I know is that unhappiness is the turbulence on the surface of the water. Problems can never be solved there. Dive deeper and it is still. Precious, glimmering, kind, and healing.