Monthly Archives: January 2021

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How You Spend Your Life

We have one short life.  How do you want to spend it?

I know those who say if you are not upset, you’re not paying attention.  And if you’re not watching the news non-stop, you’re not keeping up on things.  I disagree.   Yes, the world may be crazy – but what about your mind? Yes, it would be normal to have an internal reaction/response to some of the recent events in our country.  But, to keep regurgitating/upsetting your own internal state of affairs – that’s on you.  How does this help anything?  In fact, it creates harm in its own unique way.  Internal dysfunction adds to the injury of the original event.  I notice I start to avoid those in constant states of agitation as being part of the overall turmoil of the time.

This is not to be confused with not doing anything.  Sometimes our internal responses of anguish or anger to injustice do motivate us to take useful action.  But notice – if you are in a stew and constantly replaying harmful events in a circuitous mental loop – this is harming not only you but adding to the dismay of those around you.

Try this: take one day – just one whole day – with no media.  No T.V.  No smart phone, checking the news.  No computer.  See how that goes.  How you feel.  Can you do it?  Can you see/feel the characteristic sensations of addiction creep up if you don’t check these things?

To the extent that what we are “keeping up on” is simply feeding the addiction of constant adrenal stimulation it is not healthy.  It is not truly helping – anything or anybody.  Instead, we can center down deeply inside ourselves and ask: “What is the one thing I can do, say, or be right now that can contribute in a positive way to this situation at hand?”

We have one short life.  How do you want to spend it?

Dive Deeper

I have spent some good amount of time and energy squaring off on the inner demons spawned and nurtured in the difficult early years of my life. Years spent chasing the right man, the right job, the right circumstance brought me up short so often, I just sat down. Stopped. Learned to look within at the terrain with a penetration that comes only to the desperate.

What I have come to realize, at the bottom of all this is that Love is general, neutral and always available, independent of any given person. It is more of an atmosphere. The depth and fullness of this is truly huge. Infinite so far as I know. And any of us can tap into this – and offer it to ourselves. It is a daily process and choice – and oh-so-sweet to settle in with the kindness of this ever-present, alive place within us. It means noticing and not buying into the habitual thoughts that drive us around in circles of anguish.

And we can welcome guests into that space with us. Share. But it comes from within us first. If another has clearly awakened to this realization and we have the incredible good fortune to be in their Presence, we should recognize this as a rare, extremely precious gift.

What I know is that unhappiness is the turbulence on the surface of the water. Problems can never be solved there. Dive deeper and it is still. Precious, glimmering, kind, and healing.