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November 2017

I have, of recent, been in search of a job. I feel rejuvenated after my stint of elder-care such that the expansion of time and energy has me ready to embrace my next “gig”. The search has been an eye-opener – getting back into the field of official medicine after the past few years. As I have refined my criteria and circumstances, I have realized...

Jan - Feb 2017

Imagery as Healing: As human beings, we are storytellers. The stories we tell ourselves define the tilt and tenor of our days. When we have an experience, it stands alone Ð until we create a story for context. And it is these stories that decide for us our degree of happiness or misery...

Summer 2016

Here Where We Are: The original meaning of the word ÒperfectÓ was ÒthoroughÓ. I take that to mean complete in our effort to be all we can be. The perfection of self-as-thorough may include components that come as a surprise Ð not fitting in the picture of some preformed idea we have about how a Òspiritual (or ÔgoodÕ) selfÓ should look. How many of us have strived for how long to live a life of spiritual depth? And how often has that caused us to feel despair at our lack of perfection in our efforts?...

Jan - Feb 2016

Greetings and may your new year be blessed with deep comfort --- and ever-deepening insights --- This month I am sharing a couple of recent interviews I had with Ann-Marie McKelvey, the founder of the Santa Fe Mindfulness Coaching school Ð Mindfulness; and Mindfulness in association with eating. Enjoy!...

Nov - Dec 2015

Power Over: [An excerpt from a book I am writing] Although this book focuses on the differences women and men experience in training our egos along gender lines, I want to make clear that the biggest factor needing attention is the mental structure behind this training. There are many clear biological differences between males and females...

Sep - Oct 2015

Anxiety: lurking, deep, swirling, gripping, pervasive. Hard to get at. Hard to eliminate. Seems to be ever-present. So much in the background we hardly can say it's a "thing" separate from us. And that, of course, is its secret to lingering - far beyond its welcome...

July - August 2015

Fear: I recently had lunch with an acquaintance who was lamenting her lot in life. There was the fact that she has to work for a living, but more important were the periodic bouts of panic she has about not making it. Not surviving. Not making enough moola to cover the rent - or in her case, two mortgages...

May - June 2015

Making Peace with Being Woman: [An excerpt from a book I am writing]One thing I noticed in all the interviews I did with women about their relationships with their mothers is that to make peace with who their mother was is essential for their own wellbeing. It is as if our history lives on deeply inside of us, so that to expunge the demons of the past includes embracing them first. The wholeness of who we are includes and is in part because of this very past we most don't want. We can't get away from it by ignoring it if it dwells within us every step of the way. Which it does, really...

March - April 2015

Beyond what our mothers taught us: Peggy Tabor Millin in her book, Women, Writing, and Soul-Making, asks: "Why is it that women disown their genius, have so much trouble claiming it, and can be swept off by the smallest current of criticism? Are we so born to pleasing others that we do not know who we are, cannot find that inner thread unless it is handed to us?"...

Jan - Feb 2015

Figuring out - the Heart: From a Dear Reader: I have been trying to remember some of the things you said in reference to my state of mind or should I say heart....... would you be willing to write the essence of what you said? Very grateful for you and your willingness to share and help a fellow journeyer...

Nov - Dec 2014

Making Tough Decisions: From a Dear Reader: I long/have resistance to moving. I've been debating this for a year, and never get a clear answer. I have both the place of happiness and yearning in my heart, and also the place of what didn't work, that feeling in the pit of the stomach. When I visited last year it wasn't what I'd expected. It was cold, there was no outhouse near my cabin, there was a lot of hiking that my body didn't like.

I know you can't decide for me, but perhaps you can help me determine how to decide between the feelings for or against...

October 2014

Accepting Aging: I've been reflecting lately on decline. As in, of the body. This life on this planet, as it goes through its various transitions. The inevitable contracting that must happen after weÕve done our full bloom. Noticing the resistance to this...

September 2014

Freeing Us Up: I've held a number of people hostage in my life. Mind you, most of them donÕt know this. These are people who are busy living their own lives, completely unaware that the images of their selves continue to live right here in my mind long after they, the actual individuals, have gone on to much more interesting things....

August 2014

Aligning with Purpose: From a Dear Reader: With regard to getting the job that is perfect for my Heart, I have never felt that I knew what that job would be. -- I am very frustrated -- Thanks for any advice you can offer ~ This is something I've reflected on at length for myself. Here's what I've noticed:...

July 2014

Envy: An individual recently expressed envy to me about my circumstances in life. I've wondered about this, since then, since I know many personal travails that she is not privy to. I think about the rigors of my chosen career, the difficult years and expense of medical school and the incredibly arduous path I've taken to achieve what I have...

June 2014

Fear of Change: My recent squaring off with the possibility of pending death brought the topic front and center. Many people assert that the fear of death is the greatest fear there is. I discovered that just isn't true for me. The fears that really crimp me up are of a deeper sort. It may seem that it doesn't get any deeper than death - but that isn't my experience. ...

May 2014

What Is Our Responsibility: From a beloved reader: "I have no trouble loving and feeling compassion for and ONE with those who are victims or activists or even clue less where I get stuck is attempting to even think about sexually abusing and making sex slaves of little children/girls, raping, torturing, murdering WAR etc. If I am ONE with that too how do I sleep at night or even think about the horrible suffering being caused etc. ???" ...

April 2014

Change From Peace: Many of the people with whom I closely associate perceive that the world is in a heap of trouble. It seems the status quo is on a collision course with its own unsustainable future. The current trajectory includes an economic system based on infinite growth and a population boom that won't stop expanding. Earth is a finite object, and it is where we live. Greed, avarice, financial-only based value systems - all of it - contribute to a malfeasant "bottom-line"...

March 2014

Changing Events: I've had lots of opportunity in the past year to reflect on my relationship with instability. Our move across the country was punctuated by a robbery in Selma, CA, a car accident in Santa Rosa, NM and a severe migraine that left me five pounds lighter by the time we arrived on the East Coast. It was a transformative trip.

February 2014

Manifestation: I recently had a conversation with a lovely woman (J.) about manifestation. She wondered how, with all her dedication to the spiritual path, she was unable to meet the basics of life. A good income, bills readily paid, a nice place to live...

January 2014

Gratitude as an Opening: I’ve been noticing, lately, how feeling grateful fills me up with so much energy. And – how very little it takes to engender this feeling. More of an awareness, really – of how temporary every painful thing is...

 

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